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Tuesday, 14 May 2019

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem When You're Having a Bad Day

What is it about a bad day that can take the wind out of your sails and make you feel so drained?
Your mindset controls your moods and hence your level of energy. How a bad day is labeled as 'bad' - is completely due to your internal language. Bad days often begin with things happening that were not expected (for instance, missing a train, breaking a bag, misplacing keys) and these things can create a mindset that things are not going to go well today. As you focus on all the things that begin to go wrong, your level of agitation and frustration rises and this drains your energy. In addition your internal language becomes more negative and self critical - which can result in further energy depletion and even depression.

Some of the common symptoms after a bad day
Do you ever feel drained, hopeless, or unmotivated? One of the common emotional responses to a bad day are feelings of hopelessness. One of the most common thoughts are that nothing is going to go right. Poor motivation then sets in because you feel you have been kicked whilst trying to get up and hence self protection sets in - to avoid further disappointment.
Someone with a higher self-esteem will see the bad day for what it is - just a bad day where things didn't go their way. However, with less resilience many people start to feel defeated as a result of a negative series of events and subsequently need something good to occur to shake them out of their negative mindset. An example of this might be, that whilst travelling on the train that was running late, a little toddler begins to laugh so loudly, you can't help but start laughing too.

Sunday, 12 May 2019

10 Ways to Boost Self Esteem

There are many ways to boost self esteem. Self esteem is the positive or negative attitude one feels about themselves. Portraying yourself to be a certain way in your mind will eventually lead to disappointment. Here are ten ways that helps to boost your self esteem.

1. Avoid Negative People
Don't let people's negative perception of you lead you to start believing those negative thoughts of yours. When it comes to self esteem, your opinion is the only one that matters. Avoid people that treat you badly for this will start to make you feel bad towards yourself. Surrounding yourself around negative people will only make you act negatively.

2. Stop Trying to Please Everyone
You can't please everyone so don't try. Trying to please everyone will have you feeling unappreciated if you don't get that same treatment in return. Even though you should treat others how you want to be treated, you won't always get that same treatment in return. Not getting the same treatment in return is not a reflection of you, but them. Everyone's intention won't be the same as yours. Pleasing everyone is stressful. Don't rely on others to determine your self worth because of rejection. Don't expect things to always come out the way you expect it to. Be the unique person that you are. You don't need to seek validation from anyone. Never let the thoughts and feelings of not being able to help others affect you mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Thursday, 9 May 2019

Goal Setting Tips: Benefits of Setting Short-Term Goals

Have you ever tried to quit smoking but unsuccessfully? You wanted to play sports regularly, but still couldn't find enough motivation? Sometimes no matter how much we want to achieve something, we are not able to stick to what we have set. And the obstacle here is probably not the lack of strong will, but the way we set ourselves goals. In this article, you will learn how to set your goals so that they are easy and enjoyable to achieve. The technique I will be discussing is setting short-term goals. A technique that is sometimes underestimated.

Life without a goal is like a ship without a helmsman. It is swimming somewhere, drifting across the ocean, but the destination is unknown.

You build your "another-self"

Research by neuropsychologists has confirmed that when we set ourselves a goal to achieve, we behave as if it were already part of us. The brain cannot fully distinguish between what we have and what we want to have, and it believes that the desired effect is already a part of ourselves. For example, if we fail to achieve our goal, we feel pain as if we have lost something.

The brain helps us then to achieve our goals by rewarding us for our pursuit of them. Therefore, visualizing the goal already achieved and the pleasurable feelings associated with it are so important in the whole process, because it intensifies the mechanism that occurs in our brains.

Wednesday, 8 May 2019

Do You Want Financial Freedom?

Do you feel like you are not able to be financially free? At the end of the month, are you wondering if your month will last longer then your money? Why is it that statistically, only 5% of people will be financially wealthy when they retire at age 65? Is it because there is not enough money in the world for everyone?

Lots of questions but are there any answers? (Another question). Fortunately, yes there are answers. The answers are not necessarily that hard to come by and they may stretch you imagination. Most people, and you may be one of them, feel that being financially free will not be available to them or they will be only when they retire. Have you looked at the people who are retiring right now and seeing what they are doing? The majority seem to be needing to find a second income to supplement their retirement. Due to many factors including inflation, their money does not go as far as it use to. That is why about 90% of those reaching retirement are dependent on the government or on family or friends to help them out or are not able to afford to retire. In countries where people are "free" to do what they want, most people should be able to be financially free even before retirement comes but most are not!

Tuesday, 7 May 2019

Feeling "Not Good Enough" - And What You Can Do About It

"I'm just not good enough." It's something we therapists, counselors, and coaches hear all too often from our clients. In fact, it's probably the most prevalent belief in our society: number one on the hit parade of limiting beliefs about self.
The cognitive approach is to refute the belief in an effort to convince the client that he or she is, indeed, "good enough" - an acceptable human being. I myself have done that. I've urged clients to list their positive attributes. I've reminded them that they are not axe murderers. I've had them stand in front of a mirror, as motivational speaker Louise Hay recommended, and say kind and loving things to themselves. Sometimes these methods help. Sometimes they don't.

Another approach is to offer evidence that the belief is illogical and meaningless. So I usually begin by investigating the wording of the belief. "Not good enough for what?" I ask. Most clients are not sure at first. The question implies they might be good enough for some things but not for others. They usually answer that they are not good enough to accomplish the very outcomes for which they came to therapy, counseling, or coaching. No surprise here.

They want better relationships, or improved health, or more confidence - but they don't believe they are worthy of what they want. That's a dilemma.

Monday, 6 May 2019

The Truth About Passive Income

If you search the internet for "passive income", you may find a definition or two, but mostly, what you find are websites trying to sell you on the passive-income-flavor-of-the-day. It's frustrating, I know. I don't know about you, but before I jump into any opportunity or even before I take a trip, I like to do my research. That being said, there are a lot of good opportunities out there. But before you start spending money, let's discuss what passive income is and, most importantly, what it isn't.

Webster's dictionary defines passive income as "of, relating to, or being business activity in which the investor does not have immediate control over income". I don't think that tells the whole story. Passive income is money that you receive over and over again without having to do much work (notice I didn't say "any work"). It is different than earned income in that you are not receiving money for your time (like you would a job). But depending on the passive income stream that you choose, you may in fact have immediate control over your income. But I'll get to that later.

Sunday, 5 May 2019

Message From the Universe: May All Your Dreams Come True!

"My wish for you is that you succeed beyond your wildest imagination. That you find love in places that astound you. And that you have friends who call you "just because." I dream that you go barefoot more than you wear shoes. That you play as hard as you work. And that you laugh more than you cry. I want you to set the bar high, but not too high. To reach for the stars, but with your toes on the ground. And to never, ever stop dreaming. But most of all, I wish for your happiness.

And these dreams of mine are what started it all.

The Universe"

Saturday, 4 May 2019

10 Ways to Live More Fully

Stop trying to be perfect: You already are. Yes, each one of us is a work in progress, but that work is perfect in its state of evolution. When you are driven by perfection, you are unable to appreciate who you already are. Try instead to look at what is right about you.

Stop Trying to Impress Others: The people who want to be impressed (in the way I am talking about here) are not worth your time. The people who will judge you without knowing you or based on some criteria that are not even important to you are just not your people. The people who matter will think you are amazing. Pay more attention to them.

Friday, 3 May 2019

Success and Happiness Are Not the Same

As we grow up, we're told that reaching goals, specially the highest ones, will bring us happiness. Get the best grades, graduate from the best university, obtain the best jobs... And we launch ourselves to the task at hand. But let's now look back. How many of you REALLY felt happy while doing all that? How many of you felt relief instead of happiness? How many of you TRULY felt satisfied upon getting the best grades, graduating from university and obtaining the best jobs? How long did you feel that satisfaction?

We reach one goal to immediately set the next one in a never-ending race to always get the best and grandest. We want to succeed. We want to reach the top. But let's not fool ourselves. That has nothing to do with happiness, does it? The journey to those goals is most often not a very pleasant one: the long hours, the accumulated stress, the demands on our health and time... We invest so much of ourselves that there's nothing left to enjoy.
And what about reaching the top? What top? There's always another top upon the last one, isn't there? It's just never enough.
And still the world insists on selling us the idea that success equals happiness.

Thursday, 2 May 2019

Stop Playing The Blame Game - It Doesn't Work!

Who is to blame for the problems in your life? While it may seem inside of our minds that someone else is to blame for our misfortunes or heartaches, playing the blame game truly doesn't work. It may feel like maybe your poor self-esteem or poor self-image have come from living with abusive parents, family or even an abusive partner. This is a perfectly rational thought, right?

Think about this deeply for a moment. Is blaming others working for you in your life right now? Does it help you to fix the pain of your poor self-esteem or negative thoughts? Truly, your outside world is a reflection of the world inside of you. If you allow others to be responsible for your negative thoughts or painful feelings, you are giving them your power. You essentially are squashing your own personal power and growth, and ultimately keeping yourself completely stuck in negative feelings or thought patterns.

Wednesday, 1 May 2019

How to Gain Financial Freedom

What it means to be, "Free."

The sense of financial freedom for the vast majority of people in the world varies. It's the notion of no longer worrying about financial responsibilities or doubts. Maybe it means you have no more debt and you were able to take an impromptu vacation with your loved ones without having to tell your overworked under paid boss and having him tell you, "No!", because the company needs better numbers. 

Maybe you have fears about bills stacking up and dodging bill collectors by telling them that you get paid next week just so you can have your phone stop ringing 100 times a day. Some people might feel financial freedom as being able to buy that fancy car, the home of their dreams, or buying exotic luxuries. 

Being fiscally free is the feeling of security presently and in the future. You can achieve this by investing to create a comfortable bundle of wealth. Ultimately, what it means to have freedom varies from person to person. People spend money at different rates. Everyone uses money and all manage their money differently, and because of these disparities is why financial freedom is achieved in different ways, and the idea of financial freedom rest on quickly growing your knowledge about finance. This knowledge is gained by reading well written informative articles about this topic.

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